Working Through the Grieving Process: Losing a Father


Working Through the Grieving Process: Losing a Father

I’m Ed Smith, a Sacramento Wrongful Death Lawyer. For many people, their father is their biggest role model. Fathers help teach children how to ride a bike, tie a tie, shave, and many other life skills. Fathers also protect their children, help with homework, and are among their kids’ biggest supporters. When someone loses their father, the pain is raw, real, and tough to process; however, there is some advice that everyone should keep in mind if their father passes away.

Avoid Any Expectations

Many people who lose their father have been told that losing a parent is simply “the natural order of life.” Parents are supposed to die before their children do; however, losing a father can be very tough, particularly if a father passes away unexpectedly from traumatic injuries. Instead, avoid any expectations about what is going to come next. Everyone has a different relationship with their father and, therefore, will have a different way of processing what has happened. Don’t expect to feel a certain way because everyone’s pain is unique.

Focus on the Cherished Memories

It is appropriate to mourn the passing of such an important role model and father figure. It is also important to celebrate the life of your cherished loved one, even when that life is suddenly cut short. It helps if those who lose their father can focus on the happy memories created during the life of their loved one. It can be helpful to watch old videos, flip through picture books, and reminisce either alone or with family and friends about some of these old memories. Celebrate the funny moments. Laughter can be great medicine when the time is right. Discuss the important problems and events in your life that dad helped you through. By focusing on the positives during dad’s life, it may help to change the focus of the situation and relieve some of the deep sorrow that you are experiencing. Take your time and be gentle with yourself. It’s okay to mourn the loss and also laugh about the good times — all at the same time. No two people are exactly alike in the way the mourn their father’s passing.

It is Appropriate to Ask for Help

Those who feel the need should seek out help. There are professional mental health counselors and grief counselors in the local Sacramento area as well as wrongful death lawyers who can provide assistance about the timeline of wrongful death cases and information on wrongful death awards, if necessary. It is also helpful to lean on family members and friends who are either going through the current situation or who have also lost their father. While everyone’s pain is different, some people find it helpful to talk about what has happened with other people. Never feel guilty about asking for help.

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I’m Ed Smith, a Sacramento Wrongful Death Lawyer. If you have lost someone you care about due to a wrongful death accident, please call me today at (916) 921-6400 for friendly, free advice. People who are calling from outside Sacramento may use my toll-free number at (800) 404-5400.

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